Love Your Child

When I was a teen-ager, I read a book about a mother and father who abandoned their children.  They had taken the children to a fast food place for lunch which was a big treat for the children.  While the children ate, the parents made some excuse and left and never returned.  I was horrified that a mother would do that to her children.  What had happened to that wonderful mother-love?  Didn’t a mother just naturally love her children?

When I had children, I realized that real love doesn’t come naturally.  I was heart-broken when wrong, unloving thoughts came to my mind, even as a Christian who loved God very much, even as a mother who was so grateful that God had given me this precious child.  This is the aspect of our lives that we must deal with – the curse of sin.

Older women likewise are to be  . . . .  teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women
to love their husbands, to love their children
Titus 2:4

I find it interesting that God commands mothers to love their children.  I think we need a special command because it is hard for us to love.  Our emotions overwhelm us; we get discouraged so quickly; we have a hard time dealing with the changeableness of an immature child.  Yet it is possible to  love our children.  Whatever God commands, He helps to make it happen.  He has given us some help in knowing what love is in 1 Corinthians 13.

Love is

is slow to react
is careful to listen before making a judgment

works with the child gently recognizing that the child is younger
and does not have the same ability or knowledge as an adult

not jealous
of others without children and their supposed freedom
is not jealous of the child who seems to have so little responsibility

not boastful
 is not quick to brag on the child’s good work
or to speak often of the child’s bad behaviour

not arrogant
does not compare own child with others in a way
to make your child come out looking the best

doesn’t act unbecomingly
is careful how the child is talked about
is careful how the child is spoken to in public
tries to remain calm and clear thinking when difficulties come

is not self-centered
  is willing to serve the child instead of being focused
on own personal wants and wishes

not provoked
does not get angry easily, especially over childishness
stops self to think before reacting
doesn’t take the child’s misbehaviour personally thinking
that the child is deliberately being an embarrassment

does not take into account a wrong suffered
  doesn’t keep remembering all the things that the child did wrong

 does not rejoice in unrighteousness
  is not glad that the child had to be punished
is not glad that other children were part of the problem
so that they would be punished too

rejoices with the truth
looks for each sign of truth in the child, each correct behaviour, each improvement
and compliments the child and also thanks God for His help
– these are the things worth remembering

bears all things
  conducts self with strength of character
being confident that God is in control and He will help

believes all things
believes because that belief is based on the loving, unchangeable God

hopes all things
  there is hope because God is in control and He always does what is best

endures all things
  because with God the end is better than the beginning and
our trust in Him brings blessing

Remember that God has said:

Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you;
not as the world gives do I give to you.
Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful.
John 14:27

 teaching them to observe all that I commanded you;
and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.
Matthew 28:20

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Psalm 127:3

 A new commandment I give to you,
that you love one another, even as I have loved you,
that you also love one another.
John 13:34

Let us love our children

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